A Single Sis Talking About Wholeness

I believe what I am going to say, everyone probably knows but see this as a reminder.

If you think that prince charming or Joan of arc is going to come and sweep you off your feet think again! Because there is the great possibility that your new hero is going to be wonderful in some ways and messed up in others (no one is perfect). 

We keep looking for that one to make our lives better. If you are unhappy with yourself when you are single getting a partner will not make much of a difference, most likely you will still be unhappy. You might even have the power to turn your partner into a sad sour puss also. Do you know that people’s behaviour rub off on each other? Birds flock with birds, drunks lime with drunks, scholars associate with other scholars, musicians link with other musicians and the list goes on and on. 

I am not saying to live your life without partnership but be a whole person that seeks another whole person. If you are an half empty glass and your partner is full, you  are going to start emptying their glass to fill you up, resulting in them being half empty. The solution to that is to be filled up so that you compliment your partner and vice versa. 

This concept does not apply to lovers only but can be applied to any type of relationship!

Since we are on this topic of complimenting each other and adding value to one another, I will go there. STOP WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO INVEST IN YOU! If you don’t have the courage to invest in yourself, do you think someone else will do it? Invest in yourself, whether it be a course, developing natural skills, learning something new or earning some cash to inject in a business idea you would like to bring into fruition. There is a magic in making the first move. When you start to help yourself, the creator is going to fill loopholes and sometimes even bless you abundantly. Life will work for you! Life is going to put people, resources or anything in your path that will assist you on your journey (this is a natural law of life). On that journey you might even find the partner who can compliment you and you will compliment them also.

All that was said above is my personal opinion but let us get into some facts. To be fulfilled and have value or add value to others you must be WHOLE. (It is very important to know that you CANNOT add value to everyone since each individual has their own tribe and calling). There are more points than what was written above to becoming a whole person. What I mentioned prior can be placed in categories of social, psychological and professional development. However, these are some other categories that everyone should work on when pursuing your journey to wholeness. Below I am going to put them in categories including the points I wrote before.

• Emotional- Emotional intelligence determines how someone processes what is happening and determines  their reaction to situations.

• Physical- Taking  care of your body via physical exercise and healthy eating. Have you ever noticed when you eat healthy, your body feels better or that when you exercise you get more energy?

• Spiritual- Having a connection to the creator and life around you. This can be done in many ways (yoga, prayer, meditation, etcetera).

• Social- Having healthy interaction with others is important since relationships are needed in family life, business, friendships and even day to day interactions with strangers. Social also includes knowing a time when it is necessary to cut off people.

• Psychological- knowing who you are and accepting your self. The only way someone can change behaviour is by knowing who they are (not the image you wear for the public but really knowing who you are at the core).

• Professional- Finding that activity you were meant to do in life. This leads to happiness while working and financial rewards.

The point I am making boils down to one thing. BE WHOLE! If you are not whole as yet like myself, continue on that journey to wholeness!

As the name of the blog says, these are just thoughts from a normal trini gyal. I am not a professional but I have lived and gained experience from life. 

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